by Bethany Stobbe
It’s hard to place any one particular moment or event that led us to where we are now. It was more like many events coming together to prepare us for the journey we were about to embark on. Had we not gone through all the twists and turns that led us to making music, we wouldn’t have been ready to take on such a challenge.
Back to the Beginning
Let’s go back a few years on the story train shall we? Trevor had been playing guitar for a few years in his high school band along with Wade on the bass. After he graduated, the opportunity arose to submit a song in a contest for a scholarship to Musicians Institute. He needed to place 1st, 2nd, or 3rd in order to receive the scholarship. He told himself that if he won, he knew that he was meant to do music for a living. So he wrote an entire song and shot a music video for it. He got a lot of traction for it, but sadly, he placed 4th place. Trevor was crushed. He felt so defeated that he put playing guitar and writing music on the back burner for a few years, believing that he wasn’t meant to do it.
It wasn’t until about 2 or 3 years later that Trevor’s love for guitar got reignited one night. He and Wade had been hanging out playing video games, as they often did. Jokingly they said to each other “we should jam again”. They went to the garage, plugged in, and stumbled their way through all the old songs they could remember playing. “I remembered how much I loved playing and I instantly fell in love with my guitar all over again. So I decided to give music another shot from that night forward.” Trevor said. They continued to play together, sipping on a good whisky, every opportunity they got.
Where I come in
When Trevor and I met in 2013, one of the main things we bonded over was our love for music. I had loved singing in the past, and was in Choir every year of school. But I had never been confident in my solo singing and was terrified of anyone hearing me sing. No one really knew me as a “singer” because I never let anyone see that side of me.
After a few years of being together, Trevor said to me “hey you should join us jamming some time. It’ll be fun, just come and jump around”. I was really hesitant at first, but eventually I conceded and joined them. I’m so glad that I did join that first jam sesh, because it ignited in me a new love for singing. A love I had as a child, but had put away, much like Trevor. From then on, I sang with them every chance I got.
Hearing the Music
I so clearly remember the day we knew we had to write music. We had been struggling to make a small business we had started work. So we decided to take a step back and spend a day praying and trying to hear what God wanted us to do. In a quiet moment, I closed my eyes and asked God to show me what he wanted me to do. An image of stepping onto a stage with a mic in my hand popped into me head. I opened my eyes, shook off some disbelief and said “okay God, for real, show me what you want me to do”. I closed my eyes and again, the same image popped into my mind.
Trevor had always had an unshakable feeling that he should be making music. He’d even had random strangers tell him that he will be playing music for thousands of people one day. When I told him “I really think we should be doing something with music” and explained what I saw, it was a turning point in our lives.
We had talked about starting a band in the past. We had even brainstormed some silly names that we could use. But we never really took it seriously, or more accurately, we were afraid to take it seriously, because of what had happened in the past. You hear all the anti-success stories and of course when you tell people you want to be a musician they get that “oh, you want to do THAT” tone in their voice. But when we felt this overwhelming call to make music, we could no longer ignore it.
Just to be sure we weren’t going crazy, we asked a few trusted people if they thought we should be doing something with music. We received a big, resounding YES from everyone we asked. But we had previously purchased an extensive business course for our last endeavor, so we were reluctant to invest more money in something completely new and different. Luckily, we were able to return it and get a refund. Coincidentally enough – except I don’t think it’s a coincidence at all – the cost of our course that we got a refund for was exactly the cost of the equipment we needed to buy to record and produce our music. On that day, we realized that if we weren’t making music we were wasting our time. We just felt like we had to.
Now on this day today, 3 months later, our first single “My Affliction” releases on all major streaming platforms.
In the End
The road to music wasn’t all rainbows and sunshine for us. We went through a lot of setbacks but I can honestly say that I don’t think we would have been ready to write music and put our all into it if we hadn’t. Had our first business not failed, I don’t think we would have the drive to do everything in our power to make music work. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and our everything led us to make music.
You can read how we decided to name the band HERE: